Sex and alcohol, friends or foes?

A priori, one might think they are friends… Because, after a few drinks, the sensations change: the tensions are released, the distances are shorter and we think we feel freer to abandon ourselves without restrictions to the pleasures of the flesh.

The disinhibiting and stimulating effects that are traditionally associated with the consumption of alcohol mean that its use is widespread to spice up sexual relations. Especially during the first meetings, where its consumption can help break down barriers and overcome the lack of self-confidence.

But, once the barriers have fallen, it is also necessary to know the contraindications of a substance capable of converting a night of passion into a frustrating misstep. Because alcohol can have effects contrary to those we hope for in terms of our sexual response.

Did you know that excessive drinking can block your ability to arouse and prevent you from having an orgasm?

Alcohol inhibits particular parts of our central nervous system, which is responsible for transforming the sexual stimuli we receive from those around us into excitement and allowing us to reach orgasm.

In men, this translates to:

– Difficulties in maintaining an erection, due to reduced blood flow to the penis and the constant anxiety this can cause. In some cases, this fear can cause an erectile dysfunction problem in the future.

– A delay in ejaculation. In other words, the man can have a lot of trouble reaching orgasm. Some might think that this is something positive and that the longer the sex lasts, the better it is… but believe me, it’s a myth! It is not a question of holding out longer but of the quality of the sexual relationship. Because yes, due to the anesthetic effect of alcohol, it is clear that the quality of the relationship can be seriously affected.

And, in women, excessive alcohol consumption:

– May decrease the lubrication of the vagina, due to the lack of irrigation in this area and the dehydration produced by alcohol.

– And can delay orgasm or cause it to be felt with less intensity when it does occur. As in humans, the sedative effect of alcohol causes the ability to perceive pleasure and to become excited to diminish.

But do not be alarmed: alcohol is not the enemy, it is its excessive consumption that is the problem. Moderate drinking can help us enjoy sex play, because it relaxes us and makes us feel more confident and secure in bed.

The problem is when we drink so much alcohol that the next day we are unable to remember whether we felt pleasure or, in extreme cases, when this consumption exposes us to situations in which our physical or moral integrity is in danger (for example, exposure to contagious diseases or unprotected relationships).

Getting used to having relationships under the influence of alcohol can be addictive: it can eventually become necessary for us to surrender and let go sexually.

And, to let go…there are other healthier ways like, among others, knowing ourselves and knowing exactly what gives us pleasure, giving ourselves permission to enjoy our bodies and , in case of blockage, to seek help to overcome the problems. Alcohol, to a fair degree, can be an occasional adjunct but never the means to enjoy sex.